Why is the child misbehaving? Almost all good parents ask themselves this question. What does the child want to report, showing poor behavior?
Reasons for disobedience
There are several reasons why children turn from adequate and cute to moody and naughty:
- The child feels a lack of attention
- Trying to assert itself in conditions of excessive care
- Because of resentment
- Does not believe in himself, experiencing an inferiority complex
The first reason for children's disobedience will appear due to the feeling of lack of parental attention, which the child desperately needs. This is a way to attract attention, even if it is a remark or a shout, but he received attention, although not quite pleasantly, nevertheless better than nothing.
The next reason is the result of strong guardianship and the lack of personal space in the child. Excessive severity, constant remarks, reproaches, instructions on how correctly and not, sometimes do not allow the child to develop a personality. Against which the child begins to go on strike, showing poor behavior. Another reason may arise because the child is offended by an unfair punishment or inappropriate remark, or there may be a promise that the parent did not fulfill or any other reason why the child might be offended.
It is also important for a small person to believe in himself, in his success, in self-esteem. And if, for some reason, the child feels that he is being infringed in something, then aggression and disobedience may arise.The reasons why children do not want to obey are not something bad or wrong. It’s just a call for help, a request to draw attention to yourself, to give them time and to understand the needs and problems of the child.
How to determine when a child will become naughty?
If you look closely at the behavior of the child, you can understand what causes disobedience. He’s bored, he’s starting to be naughty, invite him to do something new, interesting and informative. Talk to him, pay attention. If the child distracts from an important telephone conversation, you should give him your favorite toy, or several to choose from. The vagaries begin during the trip to the store - involving the child in the shopping process, give simple tasks, for example, to find a particular product. Realizing the cause of bad behavior, it can be prevented with the least loss for your nerves and the psyche of the child.
How to respond to disobedience?
Do not wait until the child begins to loudly assert their rights. The best response to abnormal behavior is immediately in fact, even if the child is in a public place, it is necessary to explain what he is doing wrong. At home, when the child forgets everything, it makes no sense to teach and punish. Scolding a child, you just need to evaluate his actions, without offending or humiliating him, so as not to develop an inferiority complex.
Saying no is sometimes helpful
A child whose parents correctly make demands and understand the needs of the child is calm and feels confident.He knows the boundaries of what is permissible and understands what they can punish him for.
The ability to say “no” is an important skill in upbringing, which is necessary for the correct orientation of the child and instilling in him good behavior. A firm and confident “no” will not undermine either the authority of the parent or the self-esteem of the child. If you do not abuse the word “no” and say it when you really need it, the child will feel free and will be happy to learn the world.
Recognizing the child, his needs and opportunities, it is possible to organize leisure in such a way that the child receives a lot of positive emotions, then his behavior will please the parents and maintain a good relationship with each other for many years.
